There was a recent report by the government department responsible for statistics which highlighted that many people in the UK at the moment do not feel happy.
They went on to look at the ways in which people found it easiest to find happiness in their lives, looking at money relationships and suchlike. The report was a detailed analysis of both what made people happy and ways in which people felt anxious. Indeed one of the questions asked was do you feel more less anxious today than you did yesterday.
I’m not entirely sure what the purpose of the report was, why would a government want to highlight how unhappy people are?
The real issue for me is that this statistical analysis did not seek to find out, nor help people to be happier. All it did was highlight the reasons people are unhappy-and that’s a wholly different thing.
You see, happiness is a state, much like motivation, excitement or being relaxed.
So, why is this important?
This is hugely important as states can be accessed at any time, and are not dependent upon external influences if one so chooses.
Neuro linguistic programming or NLP is a way that we can control our state to access motivation, excitement, relaxation or indeed happiness. Try this:
Think about a time, a specific time when you felt truly motivated in the context of your business. As you think about that specific time float down into your body looking through your own eyes and see what you saw, hear what you heard, and feel those emotions of feeling truly and utterly and totally motivated. Did you do that exactly as I said? Okay, let’s do it again.
Think about a specific time when you felt truly motivated in the context of your business. As you think about that specific time float down into your body looking through your own eyes and see what you saw, hear what you heard, and feel those emotions of feeling truly and utterly and totally motivated.
Now notice your increased heart rate and breathing! Perhaps you even feel motivated or exhilarated? You see with the right NLP motivation techniques it is possible to access any state at will. And this includes happiness.
Nothing your business in Rickmansworth or Watford makes you unhappy or demotivated or sad. All that happens is an external event is taken in through your senses, the NLP communication model then explains that this external event is converted into your own internal representation, based upon past experience memories and suchlike. This then affects your physiology and state. A behaviour in response to that external event then happens, in other words you feel sad, motivated or unhappy.
The thing to remember, is that you can control this process. You can decide how to represent that external events internally in your own mind. And if you so choose, using the power of NLP for your mind and business you can decide that you are happy now.
Only when we take full responsibility for everything that happens in our life, can we make changes. And that taking responsibility starts with how you respond to external events.
So, how are you going to choose to make a happy internal representation next time something happens? Can you choose now to be happy knowing that happiness is a state that can be accessed at any time.
Mark Oborn runs a successful business consultancy in Rickmansworth, Watford and Chorleywood in Hertfordshire. With his unique blend of MBA skills and neurolinguistic programming (NLP) mixed with hypnosis and timeline therapy he is able to get real change in each business by dealing with the mind and heart of the business owner.