Today is Friday 13th (at least it is while I’m pondering this post!)- typically this is a day when people have limiting and negative beliefs – so today I challenge you to consider what negative beliefs do you hold that are causing you to not achieve? – perhaps you believe that you:
1. Aren’t worth it
2. Don’t deserve it
3. Will never make it
4. Are a failure
5. Are a loser
6. Are not a success
7. What you want will never happen
8. Are unloveable
9. Are fat
10. Are a smoker
None of these things describes you, none of them is what you actually ARE… all they do is describe behaviours & beliefs… and the totally brilliant news is that behaviours & beliefs can be changed.
The problem with these limiting beliefs is that they often have ‘secondary gain’ so if you believe ‘I am fat’ then it’s a great excuse to not have to do anything and slob around the whole time isn’t it! So, we need to ensure there is no secondary gain from having this belief, or if there is, then the gain from changing must be more.
Try this little exercise, think of something that you used to believe was true, but no longer is.
hmm, that’s challenging isn’t it.
Do it again, think of something that you used to believe was true, but no longer is.
If you find this hard, how about this – when you were 16 did you believe you were 16? Do you still believe that? – OK, so now you got it.
When you think of no longer believing you are 16 do you have a picture right now? Is it big or small, bright or dim, near or far, focused or defocused, with or without sound, moving or still? Just write down what you experience of the picture.
Now do the same with your limiting belief, perhaps you smoke… so, when you think of believing you are a smoker do you have a picture right now? Is it big or small, bright or dim, near or far, focused or defocused, with or without sound, moving or still? Just write down what you experience of the picture.
Notice the differences in these 2 pictures – you see the differences are often quite marked, when you picture these 2 different beliefs you will store them in your mind differently.
Now, this is why I asked you to do this – NLP is a way to change those beliefs in to positive ones and to allow the new behaviours to develop by modifying how we picture those beliefs- ‘totes amazeballs’ as my kids would say!
So if you do have a limiting belief such as the ones listed above, please do seek out a certified NLP practitioner near you to help you overcome them… it really is possible!